Shakti's Tantra Events

Tantra workshops and events, including BlissDance, introductory, day and weekend workshops.

Wednesday, 30 December 2009

The year ahead: January - June 2010

Hello beloveds,

For those of you who are curious about what this year holds - Stephen and I are delighted present you with the Tantra schedule for January - June 2010.

The first six months of 2010 are packed with opportunities for Tantric practice. In the year that is past, Stephen joined me, and a range of courses and retreats have become established. More people are wanting to start Tantric practice, and a significant number of you are ready to go deeper. With the recent First African Conference for Sacred Sexual Educators, our engagement has also become more international. In order to accommodate the range of experience amongst students, we have more events at a range of levels. To help you choose what is appropriate for you, we have made the levels explicit:

How to choose

Level 1: Introductory. All seekers welcome and all will benefit.
Level 2: Entry - start of committed Tantric practice. Some introductory experience required
Level 3: Intermediate. Sufficient entry-level experience required.
Level 4: Advanced: Sufficient intermediate level experience required.

Events for the first half of next year include

• Retreats in the Cederberg, Drakensberg and Knysna forest
• Tantra foundation courses and and ongoing women’s course in Cape Town
• A day workshop on male sexuality
• Sexcon – A sexuality un-conference
• Regular Tantra evenings in Cape Town
• Day workshops in Johannesburg

The feedback of students so far is that the depth of transformation that occurs in their lives due to courses, workshops or retreats attended, seems to bear no correlation to the limited time and cost that was involved. Our touch is subtle, but it will take you to the edge of your possibility for expansion.


The Tantric Shaman (Level 3)
with Shakti
29 - 31 January: Gecko Creek

This retreat is only for students who have spent significant time in Tantric practice. The aim of the weekend is to introduce you to the Tantric Shaman in yourself. We will explore various subtle to strong ways of opening to trance, using dancing, ritual, masks, breath work, elemental exploration, animal spirit embodiment and sounding.
R1000 facilitation fee plus Gecko Creek accommodation*

Introduction to Tantric Lovemaking (Level 1)
with Shakti and Stephen
19 - 21 February: Gecko Creek

This retreat will be an experiential introduction to the basic principles of Tantric lovemaking. Our focus will be on opening the body to greater presence and sensitivity through deepening the breath, raising sensory awareness and allowing movement. The art of Tantric lovemaking can turn your loving of yourself and your beloveds into an ecstatic meditation. This retreat is open to all sincere seekers of truth and is inviting rather than confronting in nature.
Cost R1 400 plus Gecko Creek accommodation

Tantric Awareness Retreat (Level 2)
with Shakti and Rahasya
12 - 15 March: Osho Oasis Knysna

You are invited to a deep immersion into the mysteries of Tantra under the guidance of two experienced Tantrikas. Profound shifts have happened for people on this retreat over the years. Come celebrate your devotion and surrender to the truth/ existence/ the Tao/ the divine in all of us. We will take you by the hand on a journey of uncovering and moving through the projections, associations, fantasies and fears in order to access the spiritual power of your sexuality. Activities include movement and dancing, a deep exploration of your eroticism, Tantric touch and various forms of enactment. The aim of this retreat is to unlock unconscious material touched by your eroticism - a prerequisite for deeper Tantric work.

Cost R3 100 includes accommodation and all meals**

Tantric Practice Retreat (Level 3)
with Shakti and Rahasya,
19 - 22 March 2010: Osho Oasis Knysna

The Tantric Practice Retreat is a level 2 Tantra retreat of the Advait Tantra School for those who have already done the Tantric Awareness Retreat. This retreat on average only happens every third year. This retreat takes you deeper into the practice of what we explored during the Tantric Awareness Retreat. Our assumption is that we have all now stepped over the doorway of the unconscious in our eroticism, and we are ready to explore somewhat deeper – enact and live more strongly what is there, and get a bit more creative with it. This is a retreat for committed spiritual warriors.
Cost R3 100 includes accommodation and all meals**
** discount applies for students who do both retreats this year

Introduction to Tantra Retreat (Level 1)
30 April – 2 May: Gecko Creek, Cederberg
with Shakti and Stephen

This retreat is an ideal opportunity to get introduced to the approach, method and practice of Tantra, the art of sacred sexuality. This retreat is accessible to all sincere seekers of truth. If you are already familiar with Tantra and want to come soak up more - or bring a friend along - you are most welcome. Imagine a weekend of sitting in a circle around a fire or in a cool lapa, of lazing in the sun around a pool overlooking the endless mountains of the Cederberg, of coming to touch the mysteries of your sacred sexuality through discussion and gentle practice while being held by two experienced practitioners and the fresh, welcoming breath of nature.

Tantric Love Retreat (Levels 2-4)
with Shakti and Stephen
8 - 11 April 2010: Drakensberg Retreat Center
20 - 23 May 2010: Gecko Creek, Cederberg

In Chinese medicine, the element of the heart is fire. When the fire of our sexual energy meets the fire of our hearts, love becomes infused with power. This retreat is for those of you who are ready to go deeper into the practice of Tantric Love. Introductory level experience is required. The challenge of Tantra is: How much bliss can you stand? This retreat is an opportunity for you to explore further - how much are you willing to let yourself feel? Are you willing to feel your raw instinctual power? Are you willing to feel all your emotions and sensations without judgment and suppression? Are you willing to increase your capacity to stand the bliss of subtlety? Are you ready to start feeling the blue flames of Tantric presence ripple over your skin? Are you ready to let every breath become an act of love? This retreat will teach you how.

Cost: Drakensberg R3 100 includes accommodation and all meals
Cost: Cederberg R2 100 excludes accommodation, meals prepared together

Gecko Creek accommodation fees
* Cabin R270 pppn
* Tent R180 pppn
* Camping R110 pppn (Own tent and bedding)


A general note on all courses: feel free to attend any of these for the second time. Students who have done so have been able to access greater depths of their own beings and have experienced the events as if for the first time.

1. Tantra foundation courses

The Tantra Foundation courses give you an opportunity to practice the fundamental principles of Tantra systematically over time with a group of people. This will considerably deepen your learning and the integration of the practice in your life. The three courses are based on the seven main objectives of my Tantra practice as outlined in The courses follow a logical progression: We start with processing and enactment of what is in the unconscious (level 1) and then continue to the integration of masculine and feminine in us (level 2). Only when this work is done, are students ready to approach the sexual meditation of Tantra (level 3).

Level 1: Erotic and Beyond

Five Mondays 1 February – 1 March 7 – 11pm
Southern Peninsula,
5 – 7 March Gecko Creek, Cederberg
Course fee (includes all facilitation, excludes weekend accommodation): R2 500

This course is a first and powerful step towards the freedom that Tantra offers as a practice. It requires of you to embrace both your fears and your desires in the realm of the erotic, and to feel the feelings that emerge from here. You will be taught techniques to process the emotional and mental patters that arise from the practice. The course can offer powerful release and healing from old experiences and expectations around sexuality. Expert facilitation will ensure that the course meets each individual where they are at.

Level 2: The Soulmate Within

Six Mondays May 3rd – June 7th, 7 – 11pm
Southern Peninsula
Course fee R2 000

In our collective psyches the dream of finding the Soulmate moves strongly - that 'other' who will meet and fulfill me completely. And, as my teacher Rahasya says: “There is a real soulmate for each one of us. But that person is inside.” Inside ourselves we are both masculine and feminine. The lovers and loved ones that cross our paths are our mirrors for where we are in the inner relationship between male and female. They can also be a rich fulfillment - and embodiment - of our inner Soulmate.

Level 3: Embodied Love
To be announced – second half of 2010

When you have immersed yourself in the practices addressed in course 1 and 2, you are ready to work with sexual energy as a force of presence. The objective of this course is to get you ready to experience the full potential of your sexuality. This involves developing increased awareness in the body, expanding your heart capacity and practicing presence in every moment, including your most intimate ones. Students who have completed both the Tantric Awareness and Tantric Practice Retreats will also be allowed on this course.

2. Tantric Practice for Women: An ongoing course

Tantra is a practice that cultivates awareness of our oneness with existence through sexual awakening. This happens through the opening of the chakras. Chakras are energy centers in the body where consciousness collects around particular patterns. Typically in sexual encounter, we send our sexual energy outwards. We may experience deep bliss for a while, but generally this does not last. With Tantric awareness, our sexual vitality starts to move up our bodies like a snake that uncoils, from the root or base of the body all the way up through the crown. Sexual energy moves from the first chakra up. This process is often known at the Uncoiling of the Snake (sexual energy or kundalini). For more on the unique qualities of each chakra, see

The ongoing course on Tantra for women consists of regular mini workshops in which we will systematically work through the chakras. There will be four or five workshops per chakra. Each workshop will be an exploration of a specific element of women’s sexuality related to that chakra. You will benefit most from the mini workshops if you attend them from the beginning. However, the workshops will be structured in such a way that you can attend any workshop at any stage (that is, you can enter and exit the process as it suits you.) I will advertise each workshop in a separate mail as well.

First Chakra

Loving the body: Saturday 6 February 10 – 1pm
Our Cosmic Sexuality: Friday 27 February 10am – 1pm
Embracing Desire: Thursday 25 March 7 – 10pm
The Dance of Life and Death: Saturday 8 May 10am – 1pm

Second Chakra

Virgin, Whore and Women’s Union: Saturday 15 May 10am – 1pm
Sexuality and Belonging: Saturday 29 May 10am – 1pm
Listening to Yoni: Saturday 5 June 10am – 1pm
Taoist Tantric Practices: Saturday 12 June 10am – 1pm
Sexuality and Safety: Saturday19 June 10am – 1pm

Third chakra and beyond: Second half of the year


Sexuality Dialogue Unconference
27 March 2010 Cape Town

An initiative of EroticSpirit, is The Sexuality Unconference. It is a meeting and dialogue space for individuals who find personal expression of their sexuality in different interest groups and communities. is an opportunity to come together, share experiences and practices, and manifest a future where sexuality is embraced, honoured and celebrated with the fullness of our potential as human beings.

It's valuable what can be learned and applied from geekdom in our expression of sexuality and in relating to others. It's the topic of an entire talk but here we borrow this loose-conference format for generating open dialogue around sexuality embraced, honoured, celebrated.

Sexuality and Consciousness Educators Conference
3 - 5 December, Cape Town


Masculine Sexual Identity – Stephen, May 2010

Talks and workshops with Shakti at Zenatude, Rivonia 8 – 19 February 2010

Talk: Sexuality with Heart - An introduction to Tantra. Tuesday 9 February 7 - 9pm. Cost R50
Workshop: Releasing sexual trauma the Tantric way. Thursday 11 February 4 - 10pm Cost R800
Workshop: Tantra for Women - Celebrating Female Sensuality Saturday 13 February 10am - 4pm cost R800
Workshop: Tantra for Lovers - Exploring love, celebrating each other. Sunday 14 February 10am - 5pm


From January 2010, we are changing our fee structures to make sessions more accessible and flexible. The fee for a session with Shakti or Stephen will be R450 - no price increase from this year. Here are your options:

One hour session: Introductory of follow-up consultation which takes the form of a discussion; practice is unlikely.
Two hours session: This has been the standard time of sessions for the last three years. The extra hour allows time to do practical/experiential sessions work.
Three hours and beyond: Couples’ sessions usually are three hours as we will be engaging the realities of the relationship as well as both individuals present. Individual sessions can go up to three hours or longer. This usually happens when deep transformation processes are catalyzed.

Sessions with Stephen: As Daka, Stephen works under my guidance. Sessions with Stephen are usually follow-ups on sessions with Shakti. I first assess what is required.
Sessions with Shakti and Stephen: If Stephen and Shakti are both required in a session, our joint fee is R600 an hour. Sessions with both of us can bring profound release, particularly for women and for couples.


Thursday, 3 December 2009

The Erotic and Beyond
Tantra foundation course

Monday evenings 1 February - 1 March 2010 7 - 11pm
Noordhoek Cape Town

5 - 7 March Gecko Creek, Cederberg

Course objective

This course is a first and powerful step towards the freedom that Tantra offers as a practice. It requires of you to embrace both your fears and your desires in the realm of the erotic, and to feel the feelings that emerge from here. You will be taught techniques to process the emotional and mental patters that arise from the practice. The course can offer powerful release and healing from old experiences and expectations around sexuality. Expert facilitation will ensure that the course meets each individual where they are at.


Aim 1: Lifting taboos and suppressions

In the days when Tantra was only practiced as a secret mystery tradition, one of the first steps that a new initiate had to take was to break their cultural taboos. If you were raised a Jain Hindu, you would be asked to eat meat and drink alcohol – both of which are highly taboo in that culture. Breaking your personal or cultural taboos asks of you to face your biggest fears. In this course, we will engage our personal and collective taboos in a fun but challenging way.

Suppressions are all experiences that have become unconscious in you. Most often, these were experiences that were unpleasant or frightening to you in the past – emotionally, physically or spiritually. What we are not able or willing to feel completely in the moment, becomes trapped in the body as unconscious patterns that influence everything – especially our sexuality. We will work gently at touching these places and allowing full consciousness to return.

Aim 2: Embracing fantasies and desires

By paying attention to what you desires and fantasies are, you can integrate unconscious or hidden aspects of your being. Whereas lifting taboos and suppressions is about facing your fears, this aim is about saying yes to your desires. One of our dictums in Tantra is: How much bliss can you stand? Since many of us have been raised in traditions of religious austerity, it takes some individuation to embrace pleasure as a gateway to higher understanding.

We will encourage this individuation by exploring your fantasies and desires and giving space for them to be expressed in appropriate ways.

Aim 3: Integrating polarities

One main reason why we stay stuck in limited beliefs about ourselves is that our ego structures are bound up in polarity. Polarities split experience into opposites – what is desired and what is feared, what attracts us and what we are repulsed by, what we see as good and what as evil. These polarities are mostly unconscious in us, and as with fears and desires, they govern and direct our lives.

To go deeper in awareness of who we really are, it is important to find ways of processing these polarities. On this course, you will be taught tools to identify and integrate the polarities that limit your sense of yourself. In the process, you will develop a witness – the ability to observe the story of your life without taking it so seriously.

Who is the course for?

This course for people who are on a committed quest for greater awareness and presence in their lives, and who want to include their sexuality in this journey. This is a foundation course so no previous experience is needed. You are also welcome to do the course a second time as most certainly new material will be revealed to you. Please note that place is limited to ten participants, so book soon.

Feedback from participants on previous Erotic and Beyond course

"The Erotic and Beyond Workshop was maximum growth over a short period of time...Shakti is an incredible facilitator...I felt extremely held and supported...her insight is invaluable and so accurate...I would highly recommend trusting the process."

"I don't think anything in adult life has shaken me up more than this course. It forced me to look at stuff that had lived under the carpet for much of my post -pubescent life (and even some stuff from before, if the truth be told).The ongoing effects are still bubbling up in the form of realisations (both minor and major), that are changing and stabilising the way I act, think and feel.That's the serious bit: on the other hand it was more fun than is normally legal...
Be brave: do it!"

"I had an opportunity to recover and experience previously incompletely felt feelings at the core of my life. In the space Shakti creates, of loving awareness and acceptance, I felt it possible to embrace these feelings, feel them fully without shirking from them, and love them back into my whole life, warming them with the fire of my presence, and letting them melt away, leaving me stronger and open and clear. Before the course, difficult feelings would often block me and make me withdraw. Now I sense a greater capacity for feeling, for being with difficult feelings, of experiencing them fully and moving beyond them into new possibilities."

The facilitator: Shakti Malan is a full time practicing dakini who has significant experience as a group facilitator. For more on her work and life, see and She will be assisted in this course by daka Stephen Tredrea; see

Course fee: R2 500 includes all facilitation and excludes Gecko Creek weekend accommodation.
Bookings and inquiries: or 0833010399

The Tantric Shaman Retreat 29 - 31 January 2010

This retreat is meant for those of you who have had some immersion in Tantric practice (at least one course or two retreats attended.) It is an exploration in practice of the link between Tantra and Shamanism. Tantra is a tool for awakening using all aspects of our life, including our sexuality. The purpose of Tantra is to take us through all illusions into a full realisation of who we really are. Shamanism has a similar aim but uses different language and methods.

The shaman, or spirit medium, uses rituals involving the elements (earth, water, fire, air) to guide members of the tribe through limited perceptions of themselves into a realization of their connection with Spirit/ all that is. These rituals often involve various forms of trance or the deliberate inducement of altered states of consciousness. The purpose of trance is to help us see through the dream of our 'reality' that we get so attached to. The shamanic path has been a key element in my journey as a Tantrika, and I would like to share this with those of you who are ready.

The aim of the weekend is to introduce you to the Tantric Shaman in yourself. We will explore various subtle to strong ways of opening to trance, using
elemental exploration
animal spirit embodiment and
R1000 facilitation fee
Accommodation costs per night according to your choice:

* Cabin R270 pppn
* Tent R180 pppn
* Camping R110 ppp (Own tent and bedding)

Meals shared amongst us

Bookings and enquiries to or 0833010399. Once I have confirmed that you are eligible for this retreat and your accommodation has been defined, you can do payment into my account:

Dr. S. Malan
Standard Bank current account
Merriman Square branch (02-11-09-00)
Account number: 073152811